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Rohini Kamakoti MS, MA, LLP, LCP
Healing The Inner Chaos Blog
This blog is an anecdotal and at times, autobiographical narrative, weaving together my personal and professional experiences. These, combined with my education and training, have not only guided me in understanding and striving to heal my inner self but also offered unanticipated insights into supporting others on their healing journeys.
Dismissive Avoidants: Who They Consider Safe (and Who They Don’t)
Why dismissive avoidants feel safe in some relationships and withdraw from others. An in depth look at emotional safety, vulnerability, and attachment activation.
Feb 37 min read
How Avoidants Create Distance in Relationships
How dismissive avoidants manage closeness by creating physical, emotional, and lifestyle distance, often without leaving the relationship.
Jan 225 min read
The Avoidant Loneliness: Independence, Self-Sabotage, and Emotional Isolation
For avoidant individuals, loneliness is not loud or desperate, but exists alongside full lives, competence, and autonomy. Loneliness is not visible because nothing appears missing.
Jan 117 min read
Avoidants and Gifts: When Receiving Feels Threatening and Giving Feels Too Intimate
An honest exploration of why avoidants struggle with gifts, where receiving feels like pressure and giving feels like emotional exposure.
Dec 16, 20257 min read
The Avoidant Delay: Why It Takes Months to Feel and Process a Breakup
Why do avoidants seem unaffected after a breakup? This blog explains the neurological, psychological, and emotional delay behind avoidant heartbreak.
Dec 8, 20259 min read
Unfinished Stories: Not Everything Has to Have an Ending
Not everything that remains unfinished has to have an ending; sometimes life pauses a story, and the mind holds on because it mattered.
Nov 30, 20256 min read
Nostalgia: How the Brain Reconstructs the Past Through the Senses
Nostalgia is the mind’s way of reminding us that our earlier selves still live inside us, carrying the memories that shaped who we are today.
Nov 18, 20256 min read
Loves Me, Loves Me Not
What is love? Science, chemistry, or soul? This reflection explores the biology, psychology, and philosophy of love, from butterflies to brain chemistry, and the quiet courage it takes to follow your heart.
Nov 1, 20256 min read
Vulnerability Hangover: The Retreat After Intimacy
Sometimes closeness leaves us feeling exposed rather than comforted. This is a reflection on vulnerability hangover, the retreat that can follow intimacy, and why it happens.
Sep 12, 20255 min read
Same Story, Different Memories: Why Two People Recall the Same Experience Differently
Human memory is not a recording device, it is shaped by perception, emotion, and meaning, which is why two people can walk away from the same experience with entirely different memories.
Aug 30, 20254 min read
Breakups: Letting Go with Love. How Emotional Intelligence Helps in Healing
You can’t always control who stays, but you can choose how you heal.
Jul 29, 20254 min read
Attached Yet Detached: Understanding the Paradox of Avoidant Attachment.
The paradox of avoidant attachment lies in the tension between the need for connection and the fear of vulnerability.
Feb 5, 20257 min read
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